While marriage can be exciting and happy, it can be filled with disappointment and broken dreams.
Would you agree?
Below are 5 reasons why we tend to think that marriage is killing our dreams. When you finish reading this article, you will discover that it is not so much marriage. But it is the way you perceive how marriage affects your dreams.
1) You are missing God’s perspective on your dreams. God has a plan for you, but it is important that you know his plan for your life. I encourage you to take a quiet moment to find out why he created you and what his plan is.
2) You don’t think your spouse supports your dreams because they aren’t as motivated by them as you are.
When we share our dreams with our husbands, we want them to get excited, put on a cheerleading outfit, and yell, “Come on, wife!” while doing three backflips.
But what if your husband doesn’t show much enthusiasm for your dream?
What if he just says okay and watches you chase your dream? It would be good?
3) You are not balancing your time properly.
What are you doing with your time on a daily basis? Do you watch TV, look at photos and videos on Facebook, do you talk on the phone with your friends? Most of these things are dream killers because they often eat up your time. Decide a few things that you can eliminate from your day and use that time to work on your dream.
4) Fear and insecurity: These are common dream killers because they paralyze you from the productive things you should be doing to achieve your dream.
There are many fears/insecurities.
Some include fear of:
• Making mistakes
• Past failures
• What others will think of you
• Exchange
• Fear of not being good enough.
Ask yourself: “What fears are keeping me from achieving my dreams?” Refuse to let your fears and insecurities keep you from achieving your dreams. Step out in faith and do what you can to make it come true.
5) You don’t have a strategy to pursue your dream. You may have a dream, but you don’t know what first step to take.
For me, it was writing a book. I’ve been writing for years, but there have been some areas for improvement. I also struggled with fears and insecurities, and needed a strong support system to help me write my book and share my message with others in an appropriate way.
I recently attended a book writing conference and connected with many people who dream of writing and sharing their message with others. They actually understand my difficult situation and are willing to help me achieve my dream.
This conference gave me the support I needed and the tools to create a system and take next steps to share my message by writing about marriage to others.
If you think marriage is killing your dreams, think again. I encourage you to:
1. Get God’s perspective on your dreams
2. Appreciate the support your spouse gives you even if it doesn’t do it the way you think it should
3. Eliminate dream killers and replace them by chasing your dream.
4. Overcome your fears and insecurities.
5. Connect with people or organizations that can help you create and implement. a strategy to take the next steps towards your dream.