In the summer of 1994 (can it be 18 already?), I used my first dating site. I forgot the name, although I do remember the phrase “personal photos” in the title, and it was this phrase and the possibilities it was talking about (actually seeing hundreds of potential men to date) that convinced me to sign up, with much emotion. . I was single and ready to mingle. And the prospect of flipping through hundreds (hundreds, not thousands, that being a lot of dating profiles at the time) had me full of nervous anticipation.
However, I had a problem. I’m sure you can guess what it was. How was I going to write a good dating profile? There were no examples of online dating profiles to attract men. Trust me, I checked and I checked. So I managed and put together my first dating profile. It was something like this:
I am 19 years old and I want a boyfriend
I have no idea what to write here, which is super weird because I’m actually a writer (well, I’m training to become one in college). Anyway, where was he? Oh yeah. If you’re a nice, good-looking guy who’s not an ax-murderer (sorry, no exceptions), get in touch with us. If you’re an ax murderer, try killing pillows instead; they are less messy! If you want to know more (good guys they are), don’t be afraid to ask. Bye!
Not super terrible, right? But not super good either!
Fast forward eighteen years to the present. Here we are together, you and me. In nearly two decades, I’ve become a writer, dating coach, and written too many dating profiles to remember: some I wrote for myself to find a guy, others I wrote as examples. to help others to do it, people like you. And the latter is what I will do now.
In the following paragraphs I am going to summarize some very powerful knowledge that will help you attract men to dating sites. And you will do it all with words. Let us begin.
My headline here just sprouted hands and hi!
A headline should grab attention. This is easier than you think. The vast majority of dating profile headlines say the following: “I’m looking for a man”; “I am alone.” Say it with me: Boring! If you were a guy, scanning hundreds of dating profiles, would any of those headlines stand out and grab you by the tags and require you to read the body of the profile? I did not think.
When you look at most examples of online dating profiles to attract men (and I imagine you’ve read some of them), they rarely mention the headlines. What a fool! Headlines are arguably more important than anything else. Because it is the headline, the one that draws attention, the one that gives us the opportunity to tell our story to someone.
Your headline should zing. Imagine thousands of other headlines, but one of those headlines is lit by a spotlight and when you look closer you hear a brass band and when you lean closer little arms are still reaching out and waving in your direction. How could a guy resist looking at you?
Make your headline different. What is different? Different is a million things. Your unique brain and your life experience will dictate something to you. However, to help you out, let me give you a few tricks.
How can we grab a man’s attention and force him to read our entire profile (so we can attract him)?
You can use humor. It is eye-catching and creates a good first impression.
Certain unusual words and phrases, which we did not expect to see, are equally powerful.
The question mark at the end of a catchy question is also a good trick. People are forced to read questions and answer them; don’t you think?
And finally, ellipses are perhaps the smartest way to get a guy to read your profile (although, used alone, they’re not enough to grab his attention).
Here are some examples of quote headlines:
(humor) Help! My dog asked me out. He looks rough. Good guys – In!
The example above is pretty good, but be careful not to overuse the exclamation point.
(Unusual words and humor) What a PICKLE I’m on. I don’t have a date! I’m also inside a pickle. Come rescue me!
(Question mark and ellipses) Have you ever met someone as crazy as me? I took a picture and…
All about your body! No, not that body – Body in profile!
You know how to attract a man’s attention with your headline. Now we move on to the body of your profile; the part that attracts the man and convinces him to contact you.
This article would be unnecessarily long if I gave you dozens of examples of online dating profiles to attract men (and fill your inbox). I always figure it’s better to show a person HOW to fish than to give them fish. So let’s continue to give you all the tips you’ll need to attract a man with your body in profile.
Your writing must be conversational (yet grammatically correct, so that it can be understood). Let your voice shine through your words. After all, this is not a lecture on global warming!
Start your profile by writing about yourself; end it by writing about the type of man you want to meet.
Chorus of writing about the mundane and the cliché. We all like to have fun and laugh and many of us like long walks on the beach. But saying so is redundant. Instead, write about interesting things, perhaps very different, that define your uniqueness. Maybe you like to collect pink socks! Maybe you’ll make pancakes and your own applesauce! Dare to be different.
Humor is a powerful attraction for men. A cheeky profile picture pales in comparison to a woman with a good sense of humor (after all, the world is literate with cheeky profile pictures; so much so, in fact, that they’ve become almost subliminal). Let your humor shine.
When you fill out the part of the profile about yourself, always make sure to ask the man to ask you more about yourself. This fosters that all-important first contact from them.
Now, when it comes to writing about the man you want to meet, we have a slightly more difficult task (sorry!). We need to filter unwanted men by wanted men, but we don’t want to seem too picky in case we leave out those wanted men.
Before you start writing this last part, take a moment to ask yourself, in general terms, what kind of guy do you want. Keywords are always the best, maybe written on a piece of paper. Maybe words like fun, tough, mature, established, caring, adventurous describe your ideal man (hey, mine too!).
It is important to specify the characteristics that you want to see in the men who contact you, but do it in a general way and do not write a lot. Therefore, be concise. This way, you end up getting the men you want and don’t put them off.
Now, let’s wrap up, ladies, with an example of a good dating profile for attracting men that uses everything you’ve learned.
Oh God! My pet fish asked me out! But he is too wet behind the ears. Old man, rescue me!
Are you here. Thanks god. I have nothing against fish, you understand, but I think I’m going to prefer you. But enough of me. Let’s talk about you. What do you think about me?!
Oh yeah, I should tell you something first, right?
Well, I’m here because I’m single, I enjoy life, but I’m looking for a man to share all the fun that life decides to give me. Even the best things, like donuts and coffee, taste better with a nice guy who enjoys them with you too.
Speaking of donuts and coffee, mmm, that’s my favorite breakfast. I also make a bad omelette. Well, it’s not bad-bad, you understand. She doesn’t jump off the plate and yell, “Hey, don’t eat me!” But hey, you understand me.
When I’m not making talking tortillas, I love going to the markets on the weekends for a bargain. Last weekend I bought this lamp made with a cavalry helmet. During the day, I work as a writer, drink coffee and listen to Aerosmith and Bon Jovi in my apartment. I have a potted plant named Cecil, a cat named D. Mille, and together they watch movies while I work: best friends. I spend my afternoons inside, watching black and white movies or anything by Woody Allen, and dreaming of a man by my side, possibly you.
And who is this man, this man to steal my heart? Well, he’s mature, tough, funny, kind and considerate, with some kind of interesting job.
If you want to know more, just ask. I don’t bite, the same can’t be said for my bad tortillas!
And there you have it: a dating profile imbued with the knowledge you just acquired.
Before I say goodbye to you and before you start putting your new knowledge into practice, let me suggest that you click here to create a dating profile and put what you’ve learned to the test. I recommend this site to all my clients (and readers) because they allow you to create profiles for free and they are one of the largest dating communities in the world.
Have fun attracting your man and thanks for reading!