We often do things on autopilot, without giving much thought to why we are doing it and whether it is useful. Regardless of how many dates we go on, we may, out of habit, behave exactly the same on every date. Even if we don’t manage to extend any of them into a meaningful relationship, we can still carry on behaving as usual, without knowing otherwise.
Only when we allow ourselves to stop running the marathon and take time to think carefully about where we are, where we want to get to, and what we need to change to get there, can we empower ourselves to (finally) develop a meaningful relationship.
Invest time in knowing yourself
With the holidays approaching, invest time in yourself: get to know and understand yourself, develop self-awareness, ask yourself questions you haven’t asked yourself before, and contemplate how to change what needs to change.
Understanding why you have not been successful in developing a meaningful relationship thus far and getting to know yourself better will enable you to make the changes necessary to find and develop the relationship you so desire, if not for Christmas, then for Valentine’s Day.
Investing in getting to know yourself is time worth taking.
Questions to ask yourself
you feel that:
* Are you running a dating marathon and need to go on as many dates as possible?
* “There is no time to lose”?
* “Are there many competitors on the way?
* You has to practice running 24/7 to “achieve”?
* The road to your “goal” is paved with humps, but “at the end of the race” will you make it?
* Will you finally meet someone to develop the relationship you’ve dreamed of for so long?
Are you disappointed that:
* Does “it” take longer than you originally thought it would?
* Is time getting smaller with each passing day?
* Has this “special someone” not yet been seen on the horizon?
Can:
* Explain to yourself what is happening?
* Do you understand why you have not yet managed to develop a meaningful relationship?
* Find out if there is anything you need to change in your approach before you completely “miss the boat”?
On second thought, it could be that:
* First, do you need to overcome any panic you may be feeling?
* Is the only way to “miss the boat” is to keep running without stopping?
* Are you currently sabotaging all chances of developing a meaningful relationship, without even knowing that you are doing it?
* As long as you don’t know how shoot yourself in the foot you will not know what and how to change?
Is it not then necessary that you:
* Find a way to (finally) understand what’s going on?
* Getting to know and understand each other better, realizing what you do that is getting in the way of you being able to develop a meaningful relationship.
* Stop finding various justifications for not being successful, take responsibility for your failure(s) and contemplate what to do.
Do you want to find your way, understand yourself and know what to do?
SO:
Developing self-awareness is the way
The best way to give yourself answers to all of these questions, to discover what it is that you are doing wrong that is sabotaging your attempts to establish a meaningful relationship, and to learn what you need to do differently, is to develop self-awareness. This is a process by which you come to know and understand things about yourself that you didn’t know before, a process through which you train yourself to change “quantity dating” to “quality dating”, and you can extend a date to a meaningful relationship, if not for Christmas, then for the next Valentine’s Day!