You are jealous of him. He is the new guy in your ex girlfriend’s life. You’ve been dreading this moment, haven’t you? Waiting for the day when I would find someone to replace you. Now you’re stuck with a never-ending feeling of jealousy as she seems to move on unapologetic. How did this happen to you? How did you go from being her partner to dreading the idea of her with this new man? You need to realize right now that this is much more about you than it is about your ex or her current boyfriend of hers. It is your fault that you are experiencing this, so it is up to you to change it and the sooner the better.
Jealousy is truly an ugly emotion. Most of us believe that it comes from a place of deep love and devotion. After all, you’re feeling jealous because you don’t want your ex to be with this new guy, right? You love her so much that the idea of another man making her happy drives you crazy inside. To the uninformed eye, that sounds like something out of a romantic fairy tale. The story about the scorned lover who can’t bear to let his woman be with another man, so in his jealous rage he drives away the new man in his life and the maiden falls into the arms of her ex-lover because she finally realizes how much deep is his devotion. careers. It sounds great as a narrative, but in reality it just doesn’t work that way. Jealousy actually makes a person seem petty and insecure. Is this how you want your ex girlfriend to see you?
You can’t keep walking around with this veil of jealousy over your head. The fact of the matter is that you’ve moved on and picked someone new. Acceptance is your best friend at this point. You have to let go of the idea that you can scold him or make her look insignificant in her eyes so that she will want you back. That will not work. It will only help you look pathetic, desperate, and threatened by the new guy.
There is so much power in kindness and support. My best advice to you is to call or text your ex girlfriend and tell her that you heard she is dating someone new. This can put her off because she will anticipate a verbal attack from her new boyfriend coming from you on the not too distant horizon. Show him that you are much better than that. Tell her that you are so happy for her and that you have only heard great things about him. She may have to grit her teeth as she forms the words and allows them to roll off her tongue, but do it. The moment you say it, you will feel an emotional release. You will feel empowered by your actions.
By being the bigger guy in this triangular equation, you’ll impress your ex-girlfriend a lot more than if you told her that her new guy wasn’t right for her. You are really telling her that you want the best for her. Every woman wants to hear that from an ex. She shows how compassionate, mature and emotionally evolved he is. By letting her go and doing it with dignity and consideration, you will hold a place in her heart forever. You will always be the ex-boyfriend who acted like a true selfless gentleman.